I open a government form, and the cursor hovers over the title field. A little dropdown menu appears: Mr., Mrs., Ms., Dr., Reverend, Pastor, Rabbi. I scroll, waiting to see my own title appear. It never does. There is no “Cantor.” No “Hazzan.” It looks like a small omission, but it lands with weight. I exist in the world as clergy, but the world does not always know what to call me.
